Venting vs. Complaining



“Do you have the time to listen to me whine about nothing and everything all at once” -Green Day

I actually think Venting is healthy. It is a great way to let out all your frustration and anger. It is like releasing the pressure valve inside of you. The problem is when you vent about something repeatedly. It turns into something unhealthy. Without realizing it something that ruined your day starts to ruin your week. You go from venting to your partner to venting to your friends then coworkers. Soon Bob down the street is not making eye contact because all he wanted to do is say hi.
When venting turns into complaining. It can be very addictive. When you complain you get people’s undivided attention and they commiserate with you offering sympathy. The problem is when all you do is complain people’s sympathy turns to annoyance. They will start to offer you solutions to your problem. But you are not looking for solutions your looking for sympathy.
I challenge you today to go one day without complaining. Whenever you feel the urge think of something you are grateful for instead. See if you see a difference in your mood and perspective on life.
”In positive psychology research, gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness. Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships.” -Harvard Health
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