When NICE becomes a Four-Letter Word


My whole life people have been saying I am “TOO NICE”. They say with a sour face like it is a put down. Like they pity me for being weak. But I see it as an absolute strength. First of all  the way I was raised was to have a positive attitude and to help people who need it. I am volunteering to help because I want to, and it makes me feel good. And as a coach it is my biggest strength because when my clients are feeling down about themselves, I make sure that they come out of the session feeling positive and motivated. I see it as a big part of my job, and it is incredibly rewarding.

I think the valuable lesson I have learned is to be good to good people. And to set definite boundaries with the people who will take advantage. Or straight up say, “Sayonara”.

So now when people call me “Too Nice” I just smile and  say, “Thank you that’s so sweet.”

Is there anyone in your life that has been there for you when you needed it the most. Send them a text thanking them. I promise it will brighten their day.

“When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, look for the helpers you will always find people who are helping.” -Mr. Rogers

“There are three ways to ultimate success. The first way is to be kind. The second way is to be kind. The third way is to be kind.” -Mr. Rodgers

“Knowing that we can  be loved exactly as we are gives us all the best opportunity for growing into the healthiest people” -Mr. Rodgers

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